THIS IS SO GOOD!!! It touches on so many things I've been thinking about lately. I'll say this for now. Last year my mindset was "I can do hard things" and lately, I've found myself shifting to "everything doesn't have to be so hard". My mantra lately is to move with ease. I can choose to do this, even in hard times! But what's most amazing: the more I move with ease, I begin to realize just how much isn't actually hard. I create so much of my own suffering. I could have never come to this conclusion without allowing myself to face my feelings on a deeper level. Which is why your post resonates so very much!
Ugh so good! And because you’re into IFS I’ll share this distinction I’ve been thinking on: “This feels hard to this part of me, but my Self can totally hold this with ease.” That helps me hold the hard + ease together! And to see why/how I “create so much of my own suffering” like you said - to see what part of me it’s challenging for and to connect with it and parent it through whatever it is finding hard
THIS IS SO GOOD!!! It touches on so many things I've been thinking about lately. I'll say this for now. Last year my mindset was "I can do hard things" and lately, I've found myself shifting to "everything doesn't have to be so hard". My mantra lately is to move with ease. I can choose to do this, even in hard times! But what's most amazing: the more I move with ease, I begin to realize just how much isn't actually hard. I create so much of my own suffering. I could have never come to this conclusion without allowing myself to face my feelings on a deeper level. Which is why your post resonates so very much!
Ugh so good! And because you’re into IFS I’ll share this distinction I’ve been thinking on: “This feels hard to this part of me, but my Self can totally hold this with ease.” That helps me hold the hard + ease together! And to see why/how I “create so much of my own suffering” like you said - to see what part of me it’s challenging for and to connect with it and parent it through whatever it is finding hard
Oh my gosh, YES exactly. Parts work has been everything for me lately. You said it so well! Can’t wait to think on this more…